How a Woman Orgasm Can Really Be Achieved

Woman Orgasm


So you’re in bed, things are starting to heat up between the two of you and soon enough you’re having sex. You expect her to have an orgasm, but she doesn’t.

You wonder why, since things seemed to work like a charm between the two of you. You were certainly aroused and finished beautifully.

The problem: vaginal penetration is not enough to stimulate a woman up to the point of having an orgasm.

This situation is alarmingly common. Actually, one in four women never achieves orgasm at all.

This is a scenario that women know only too well. They need clitoral stimulation to come, and most guys jump straight to penetration after minutes of foreplay.

Guys still believe that sex is only about vaginal penetration. There are times when a woman is feeling embarrassed, thinking that her body must be having a malfunction and that’s why she can’t orgasm through vaginal penetration.

The conclusion: they start feeling sorry for having to fake the whole thing, frustrated that their partners didn’t knew they weren’t fulfilled, but too shy to tell them about it.

“The problem is not that women aren’t hungry for sex”, says Nicole Daedone, author of Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm. “The problem is they want and need a different kind of sex than what’s traditionally on the menu.”

John Aiken, relationship psychologist and author of Accidentally Single, agrees and completes the argument by saying that one of the main causes to sexual discontent is that the modern woman has become far more experienced, and it’s not willing to accept lukewarm sexual techniques any longer.

“It’s rare we marry virgins anymore, is it?” he proffers. “Women have become far more liberated around the idea of sex; they want to enjoy sex, to explore that side of their lives. They’re not willing to stay unhappy with their sex lives for long anymore.”

All women have been there: we’re on our way to O-land, but somehow we end up losing that lovin’ feeling.

When a woman stalls on her way to reaching an orgasm, there are two possible culprits.

One is mental: we let all sorts of thoughts get in the way and therefore we lose our focus. The other is physical: the guy doesn’t really know what to do, meaning that he either changes positions or the pace too suddenly, or he doesn’t do enough to make sure she is aroused properly.

Of course it’s no fun when this happens, either for you or especially for her, but you should know that it’s not that out of the ordinary and it happens to most couples at some point.

Luckily, it’s also a very fixable problem. Phew!

So the next time you’re in bed, don’t let your partner veer dangerously off the orgasm track, use these tips to get her back on and reach the finish line together.

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